To answer this question, it's probably best that I share with you a defining moment and a resulting "compelling story" that brought me to where I am today – coaching women on how to rediscover their TRUE self-worth, value, and confidence within so you'll start creating the life and relationship you deserve. That defining moment in my life happened in 2015.
When I was 20, I decided to drop out of college because I was presented with an opportunity to accept a high paying position during my summer break. I couldn't understand why I should go back to college when I was making the kind of money my friends' parents were making. I was naïve and didn't understand the market. When the housing market crashed and the recession hit, I lost everything! When the market crashed, it killed my sense of worth, confidence, and identity. I went from making six figures with a beautiful condo, nice car, total independence to having to move back home with my grandmother. I felt utterly defeated; I had hit rock bottom and couldn't imagine how life could be worse. I felt like people were going to judge my decision to drop out of college for a career that fell apart. I then started a negative relationship, which reinforced my belief that my life would not get any better. He was content with living at home with his parents and accepting the life that was handed to him. However, there was still some hope inside me that life could turn around. I started reading books on personal development, which helped me transform the way I approached life. Not long after reading these books, I came across a new career opportunity that put me back on a six-figure income projection. I left the negative relationship behind and continued on a path of personal and professional growth.
Around ten years ago, I started working for a large corporation. It was a daily grind, and I was constantly hustling to keep my position as a top performer in the company. I was learning valuable information from my mentors, but it all felt very conditional. I wanted more money and more recognition for my hustle. The more I worked, the more I achieved - at the risk of my emotional and physical well-being. I was a top performer in the company and often won awards and recognition, however, I quickly discovered the limelight was very lonely. I spent a lot of my time and energy, keeping up the pace of my career. I traveled across the states for meetings and training, often losing sleep and eating very unhealthy meals. I started to discover the more time that passed by, the less fulfilled I became. I was seeking love and approval from a position and people that would only reward my results. I never felt the connection I truly desired. The lack of sleep was taking its toll, and I gained about 20 pounds over my time in that position. Not only was my professional life becoming miserable, but I also started making poor choices in men again. My standards were low because, in all honesty, I didn't want to be lonely. I grew up without a father and mother who struggled with drug and alcohol abuse, which shaped the need to get love and approval from others at any cost. I thought becoming successful would fill that void. I hit a professional exhaustion point. I was grateful to be working, but I wasn't happy.
Things started to shift after I finally decided to get honest with where I was and take responsibility for my life. It was an accumulation of years of working to the bone, gaining 20 pounds, and dating men who were only there to fill a void because I was lonely. It was not about true partnership. It was more about the perception of what I thought my life was supposed to be. I finally realized that no matter how many men I dated or how much money I made and the recognition I received, I was still very unhappy. Shortly after this realization, I hired a life coach. My coach taught me how to process things from my past that I had been suppressing for YEARS, how to heal from difficult life experiences that kept me playing small and settling, and finally, how to release and let it all go. She also taught me how to accept, honor, respect, and love myself, how to have compassion and patience for myself and my journey, and how to move forward with my life. Ultimately, my life coach showed me specifically step-by-step EXACTLY how to take my life and power back and create a fulfilling life and relationship I was worthy of and deserved. Five months later, I met a man who completely changed my life, who is now my fiancé. I cleaned up my past and started showing other women how they could do the same. I watched their self-worth and self-confidence completely SKYROCKET. I've since committed to dedicating the rest of my professional life to helping other women in a place now like I used to be, breakthrough to rediscovering their TRUE self-worth, value, and confidence.
Since then, I've worked with many women one-on-one, spoken in front of countless groups, and have lived the dream of meeting the love of my life. We bought a beautiful home together, travel the world every three to four months (New Zealand, Czech Republic, and India most recently.) I've also, without apology, have committed to making my mental, emotional, and physical health a top priority, no exception. I created "A Confident Woman Unleashed," my 90-day signature program for women JUST LIKE YOU who are also serious, ready, and committed to creating a fulfilling life and relationship you're worthy of deserve. If you're ready to get started in transforming your life and relationships asap, I invite you to learn more about how you can work with me in my program. Book in a free 30 Minute Clarity Call here https://bit.ly/ClarityCallwithNikki to discover your next steps!